There were times in his childhood, Joe Torre said yesterday, when his father, a New York City police officer, would arrive home at 3 a.m., accompanied by a couple of buddies. The elder Torre would wake up his wife _ Joe's mother, Margaret _ and instruct her to cook for the men. Margaret Torre didn't have a real choice. She knew what the ramifications would be if she refused.
Stories like that explain why Torre started his Safe at Home Foundation back in 2002. The foundation helps children who have found themselves in violent homes, through lectures, literature and advertising, and there are 10 foundation-sponsored safe houses _ all called "Margaret's Place," in memory of Torre's mother _ in the tri-state area. More are on the way.
"I just felt that my mom meant so much to me and the other kids in her family," Torre said Monday, at the Samsung's Four Seasons of Hope's sixth annual celebrity gala. "Her life was all about her children. She never went to dinner, never went to movies, never went on vacation. It was all about being there for her children. So I wanted to do something in her name."
We're fortunate to have many local baseball figures who take their community service seriously. Derek Jeter has done great things with his Turn 2 Foundation. Newsday's Kat O'Brien wrote a great Father's Day story about Jorge Posada's efforts to raise awareness about craniosynostosis, which his son Jorge Luis has battled. On the Mets' side, Carlos Delgado won last year's Roberto Clemente Award for his organization, Extra Bases, and Tom Glavine has been honored by the New York chapter of the Baseball Writers Association of America for his work.
All deserve great praise, and while I'm loathe to start ranking, I think Torre deserves special credit, because he has chosen to open up about something very painful and personal. Torre himself never suffered abuse at the hands of his father, but he always feared that day would come, because of the way Torre's father abused his mother.
"The days where I used to come home from school and see my dad’s car in front of the house, I used to go somewhere else," Torre said. "I could never go home. It’s so reassuring that my daughter never wants to leave home, that she just enjoys hanging out at home, which is something I never felt comfortable doing. ...It was very turbulent in that home. You don’t have to be physically hit to be affected by what goes on."
This Yankees season has featured its usual tension and speculation about Torre's job security, and there will come a time, whether it's this year, next year or beyond, when Torre no longer manages the Yankees. There's no doubt the prestige of the job helps Safe at Home, when it comes to donation time. But at this point, the foundation appears strong enough to carry on its mission regardless of Torre's job.
And really, that's something we should respect and admire more than those four World Series rings.